It’s nearly the middle of February and you know what that means: cheap candy and chocolates on February 15! For me, it also means taking another look at zefrank and his vday video. If you haven’t had a chance, definitely take a look. He relates a cute story of being a kid and giving his crush a valentines card that says, “Do you like me? Check yes or no.” I love the simplicity of that. Keep it simple. I don’t always succeed, but I try to follow the easygoing nature of that. I recommend it for lower stress relationships.

Also a-buzz recently is the movie version of the fan-fiction novel that’s got BDSM into mainstream news. It’s interesting to see people’s reactions. I haven’t read the book myself. I suppose if I had more time to read, I might get to it eventually, but other things get priority, and it’s pretty far down the list (I’m currently reading The Startup of You by Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha, and I highly recommend that).  My stance on the movie and book is that if you’re new to BDSM, you might take it/them as a how-to guide, and that’s somewhat dangerous. Things like consent and safewords and respect need to be a part of any healthy relationship, including kink relationships. So for fantasy, sure, indulge, but please, use better judgement in the real world. And if you’re looking for direction or more information, just ask. There are a lot of healthy kinksters in the Denver area.

Another zefrank thought: braincrack. Running a con gets into the braincrack (again, go check out the video). I have a lot of great ideas that don’t come out of my head into fruition in exactly the same way I imagined them. The amazing thing is that the sparks of awesome that got me excited in the first place do exist in the thing that gets created, and people get excited about that, and for me, that makes it worth it.

So I hope you all are having a great February, with all its trimmings, and remember folks, stay safe out there. 🙂